Sunday, October 31, 2010

The fun continues.

Friday night we went to a Halloween party hosted by a Canadian family. Within 20 minutes, Ryan cut his finger carving a pumpkin. Thankfully, there was a young Chinese doctor at the party and she called ahead to the hospital and stayed with us the entire time. Ryan is doing great - he got three stitches. I brought an anti-biotic with me as a precaution, and Ryan is taking it 2x per day (just in case). I cleaned and re-wrapped his finger last night and it looked good. He is feeling fine, too.

Jake woke up with diarrhea this morning, so it has already started out to be a long day. Many of the babies across the hall are sick with fevers so we will not be visiting them today. We spoke to the Chinese contractor last night and the site is not ready to be painted today, so we will likely stick around the apartment and walk to the grocery store a little later. I will also go upstairs and bring one of the babies down - they are short nannies this weekend. Unfortunately, Jake will not allow me to be out of his sight. He will let me hold the babies, but he wants to be held at the same time. I had to run out to a bakery across the street last night and he cried the entire 10 minutes I was gone.

Yesterday, Wenli and a translator (one of her colleagues from work) spent the ENTIRE day with us - we went to see the Terra Cotta Soldiers and then we went to the City Wall. We did a lot of walking and saw a lot of interesting sights. The Chinese are the most gracious hosts I have ever met.

Wenli also bought our train tickets - we are going to leave Xi’an Tuesday night and fly back to Chicago on Wednesday night. There are currently 41 seats available on that flight and we have listed as standby passengers. We have mixed feelings about coming home early - Ryan wants to stay. Glenn and I do not. Unfortunately, we arrived too early to really be effective (paint, tile, assemble cabinets) at the worksite. They are at least 1 month behind schedule.

We did go back to Home Depot again on Friday and found out that we can not purchase 5 gallon buckets of oil based paint. On top of that, the paint we chose (and bought latex paint) is not available in an oil base. It took no less than two hours to determine that….At the work site we swept and removed debris from eight rooms and removed the rest of the old cabinetry. More later.




Babies
Babies and Nannies





Jake



Thursday, October 28, 2010

Another day in paradise….

Yeah. The highlights of our day included a trip to Home Depot and lunch at KFC. Glenn and Ryan are still out at the work site breaking up old cabinetry. I swept for a little while with Jake attached in the backpack. It is still extremely dusty and cold (no windows) and I can not believe they consider the site ready to paint. The walls still need to be sanded a little and the debris needs to be removed.

We bought (the wrong type of) paint this morning. It will be used as a first coat. We need to go back for more paint tomorrow. This seems to be the common theme - nothing gets done right the first time and nothing gets done in a timely manner. And, it is a MAJOR ordeal to go anywhere as transportation has to be arranged. I think this is my major frustration. The general contractor and Amanda will be leaving for Hong Kong on Saturday morning. Josh’s VISA is expiring and he needs to leave the country and re-enter for the new clock to start ticking. They will be in Hong Kong until Wednesday. Depending on how things go today, we will be making a family decision as to whether we will stay for the original amount of time or leave a week early. Right now I am voting for leaving a week early….

Last night we ate at Subway (yes, there is definitely an American pattern to our eating habits over the past couple of days) and went to the light and water fountain show at the Big Wild Goose Pagoda. Ryan and Jake really enjoyed the show including the music. I was freezing cold…

Yesterday the lock on the apartment broke and we could not get in until the lock smith came and fixed it - about two hours later. Jake and I played with the toddlers across the hall while we waited. There were about 10 Chinese volunteers playing with the kids and they thought Jake was part of the foster home. I kept telling everyone, in Chinese, that Jake was my son and Jake pointed me our as his mama. The children call their nannies "mama".

We also dressed all the kids in Halloween costumes and Chang and JingJing took their pictures. We left before the chaos ended and just finished up the very last child this afternoon. This little boy (who is actually a big little boy) is here because the orphanage said he was HIV positive. The foster home had him tested and there is no sign of HIV. His paper work will be ready soon and he will be listed as a healthy boy. His name is Daniel. I also learned that Chloe needs eye surgery or she will lose her eyes sight completely. Celine is growing, but no confirmed diagnosis has been made. The other babies, Zander, Lexie and Joy, also gained weight this week. Two children had surgery today and both are doing well.

Tonight we are staying in and I am going to make pasta, broccoli and garlic toast. Tomorrow night we have been invited to a Halloween party at the Canadian nurse’s home. She and her family live by the City Wall. They planned to stay 2 years and have been here for six. I don’t know what her husband does but he works in China and travels a little bit.

On Sunday we will likely visit the Terra Cotta Solders, since that is the only day Chang can help us. Wenli has also offered to take us site seeing, too. Wenli and her family have been so supportive - I wish I could speak Chinese so that I could communicate with her.

I will upload pictures later - Glenn has the camera out at the work site.

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Monday at Starfish

Today was cold and rainy and Jake and I stayed in all day.  Ryan and Glenn took a trip out to the worksite but there really isn’t anything they can do until later in the week when the tile arrives.  It is not ready to be painted either.  To keep busy (and sane) we will create a moving plan complete with inventory for the four apartments.  The move must take place no later than Dec. 1st.  Ryan is responsible for creating the Excel spreadsheet.  Amanda would like to move one apartment at a time.  Three of the apartments house the almost 50 babies/toddlers that are here.  The new house will have four living suites and two dorm rooms for volunteers.

Glenn is still not feeling well and I think I have accidentally made his feel worse.  I gave him the wrong medicine over the past 24 hours and he is experiencing some side effects.  Hopefully he will feel good tomorrow.  He and Jake are asleep right now and Ryan is playing a video game (surprise surprise). For those of you who want to follow, Ryan also has a blog:  http://www.monthinchina.blogspot.com/  Since we have no access to blogger.com, Leah is updating the blog for him (thanks Leah!). 

Jake is doing well.  He would not eat Chinese food the first few days we were here, but he is doing well now.  In fact, when he lets me, I have conquered the ability to feed him with chop sticks.  I am quite good, I must admit, and have even mastered the art of eating and feeding Jake with chop sticks. 

Today Jake and I played with the kids in one of the apartments on the first floor.  I will take some pictures tomorrow and post them.  The kids, mostly boys, LOVE to be held and some of them are a little more aggressive than Jake is used to.  Jake is SO sweet and I have to keep one eye on him at all times.  While there is a huge box of toys, none of the toys were out on the floor.  We pulled out a bunch of balls and other toys but put them away before we left.  While the foster home is a much better place for these children, it is a far cry from a real home.  It is heartbreaking to see these kids living the way they are living, even though, again, it is much better than living in an orphanage.

The nannies cook lunch everyday and we have had some really good, authentic Chinese food.  We had MacDonald’s last night (they delivered) and chicken and rice soup with toast for dinner tonight.  It was too cold to head out and Glenn did not eat dinner, so we ate in again tonight.

The apartment is very cold, particulary our room. I miss carpeted floors and our mild climate. 

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Another Day in Xi’an


Our Living Room

Our Bathroom

Our Room




Work Site Relic
Yesterday was a better day for us.  I had a momentary small glimpse of where I fit in. I held and fed Joy most of the morning and Glenn went out with Amanda, Josh, and Stephen (a new “old” arrival) to pick out tiles for the bathrooms.  Each bathroom will be a different color and match the sitting room and babies’ bedroom.  We will pick out paint tomorrow.

Glenn said the tile market was quite an adventure.  The Chinese contractor was with them and he negotiated the price.

Our hearts are heavy over our friend Doug.  Neither Glenn nor I got much sleep last night after we heard the news. We are praying for Gina and the rest of Doug’s family. Like so much here in China, we do not understand why these things happen to people we know and love and babies we don’t yet know but do love as the innocent children they are.  But, our faith tells us that God is all sovereign and He has a plan.

Jake’s new favorite words are bus and baby.  He constantly chants “the bus, the bus, the bus, the bus.”  Too cute.  He is having a hard time adjusting to the time difference. He has been up since about 2:30am!  We kept him in bed until about 30 minutes ago, but none of us got much sleep.  Jake even woke up Ryan so we will ALL be ready for a nap later today.

Yin’s cousin and an interpreter took us out to dinner and to the Chinese equivalent of Costc*.  They carry a lot of international foods with familiar packaging and we were able to buy cereal, American cheese, peanut butter and jam.  Those are all staples in our house.  They would not let Jake in the store because he is too little (?!) so Glenn and Ryan had to wait outside.  Yin’s cousin was EXTREMELY gracious and has offered to take us sightseeing next weekend.  We also met her son who spoke pretty good English.  He was had just finished school (6pm on at Saturday) but took some time to help us out.

I will post some pictures later.  Flicker does not appear to be accessible.

Saturday, October 23, 2010

Day One at the Worksite

We spent today out at the worksite.  The new goal is to move the babies on Dec. 1.  There is a lot of work that needs to be done.  We are a bit discouraged.  Today we swept a large dusty room (without dusk masks) and removed nails and lose plaster from the walls.  The Chinese work crew plastered the walls in another part of the building.  Many unassembled IKEA cabinets are on-site but they can not be assembled until the floors are in.  The window casings are installed but the actual window have not been installed.  All the rooms will have drop ceilings - those will be installed after we paint.

We hope to begin painting next week and I will help Amanda pick out paint for the entire building. This is a little scary for me since I always work with a designer at home.... Since there is no electrical in the walls (concrete block covered with plaster), once the final coat of plaster has been sanded, we can start painting.  It seems strange to us that we will be painting at this stage of re-construction.

Getting to the worksite is not very easy.  We took a taxi in the morning and two buses and one taxi to return.  It is actually a three bus trip - the least expensive way to travel - but a taxi drove by before the final bus came so we took it instead of waiting for the bus.  Again, this is a bit discouraging as it takes a lot of time and concentration (ALL the streets look the same to us).

We will likely split up next week and I will stay back at the current foster home apartment with Jake while Glenn and Ryan travel alone to the work site.  They are short volunteers and there are four very sick babies who need to be held constantly.  At least one of them is crying at all times…..Again, this is very discouraging and not what we had planned. 

We are having a hard time with the food and living in a volunteer apartment with so many other people and sick babies.  It is total chaos until 7pm when the babies are moved to the upstairs apartment for the night. Ryan told me today that 7pm is his favorite part of the day:( The babies return again at 7am.  Today there were only two Dutch girls to care for all four babies.  Amanda hired a couple additional nannies to help (clean and hold babies).

I don’t want to sound discouraging but is it very difficult.  We were hoping to travel to a panda sanctuary tomorrow but just learned there is going to be a “demonstration” in Xi’an and it is recommended that no one be on the streets.  Please pray that we survive a whole day in the apartment.

On the bright side, I will be able to get Jake back on a schedule tomorrow and he will have lots of kids to play with.  We ended up taking him with us today because we did not want to leave him.  We can also order food to be delivered to the apartment.  While no work will be done by the American crew (Josh (the contractor), Glenn, Ryan, me and another volunteer named Bill who is able to help one day per week), work at the foster home NEVER ends.  I do not know how they do it day in and day out. I know, without a doubt, I could not do it every day.

We have heard some stories about the babies and how some of them came to be here.  Again, it is heartbreaking and incomprehensible. If you have a chance, go to the Starfish website and look at the pictures of Celine, Zander, Joy, and Lexie.

We are questioning what difference it makes that WE are here given the fact that the need is so much bigger than what our family of four can affect. It is not easy and it is not natural for us to live this way (buses, shared living space, un-identifiable food, strange bathrooms, living out of a suitcase, etc.). It certainly would have been much easier to just send money - but, I really didn't (and still don't) get the feeling that is what He wanted us to do.  If this was a lesson in obedience, it sure would have been easier if we could have been obedient from the comfort of our own home.


Ryan at Shepherd's Field

Ryan and Jake on the train to Xi'an

Amazing Hands

Jake at Amazing Hands - he did not recognize anyone

Thursday, October 21, 2010

We are in Xi'an

We arrived this morning on the overnight train.  Our soft sleeper car was very comfortable and Glenn, Ryan and Jake slept well.  We are still very jet lagged but slept for about 5 hours this afternoon.  We will go out to the worksite (about 10 minutes away we think) in the morning.

It is pretty chaotic here - Amanda has 4 apartments FILLED with babies from about 6 weeks to 2 years old.  The volunteer apartment has the youngest babies - 5 or 6 of them - until 7pm when the night time nannies come on duty. 

One hardly ever stops crying.  The rest need to be held alot.

We are trying to get settled. You can not drink even a drop of water without boiling it. The bathroom is pretty funky although there is a western-style toliet.  Our bed is huge and will likely sleep ALL of us....It is a little cold and there is no heat. We are definitely out of our comfort zone.

Please pray for all of us.  I know once we get our bearings, enough sleep, some dinner (which is not Chinese food), all will be well.

Got to run - I am in the middle of everything.

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Better Late - we are in China!

Praise God! We were able to fly standby on a flight from Dulles to Beijing on Monday instead of Tuesday. The flight went well although neither Jake nor Ryan slept for more than two hours. We were able to get three seats together (I was in my prime negotiating and suggesting who should give up a seat to keep as many of us together as possible). Glenn just stepped aside and pretended he did not know me.

The drivers found us outside of baggage claim while I was preparing to attempt our back-up plan for transportation. The plane actually arrived EARLY because it took off from Washington as soon as it was full. There were five seats available and we got four of them.

We spent the night at Shepherd's Field after a brief tour of one of the foster homes. We will visit up until lunch today and then head back to Beijing to visit Amazing Hands.

We had dinner at a local restaurant with Clay and Jewel and the compound's orphan dog who followed us right into the restaurant. He waiting patiently on a pile of clean tablecloths until we were done eating. He then walked home with us. It was a good dinner.

Ryan did not go with us but slept like a rock until about 12:30 am. We all got up at around 3 am and are downstairs at the Inn in the gathering room. Needless to say, we are the only ones awake.

Breakfast (after the pop tart breakfast Ryan and Jake already had) is at 7 am and we are all heading upstairs to shower and re-organize the suitcases.

We traveled light with just three big suitcases and four carry-ons. One of the big suitcases was FILLED with medicine, pjs, and other things for the kids.

Philip, if you are reading this blog, please send us an email or Skype us - we don't have your email or Skype address with us. In fact, we were so rushed, we left home without a few other things.

Since it is only October, the heat is not allowed to be turned on. Even though it was in the low 40's when we arrived, there was no heat to be found anywhere, including the car that picked us up! Apparently, heat is turned on on November 15th. It is steam heat provided/controlled by the government. This sounds like a rule my father had when we were growing up - no one was allowed to adjust the temperature and if you were cold, you were told to put on slippers over the socks you had on or put a robe on over the sweater you already had on. I am going to miss my father.....

More later! Thanks again for all the prayers and encouragement. There is NO doubt that we are following God's plan and we can't wait to see how it all unfolds.

Monday, October 18, 2010

Still in the US

We were unable to get on the flight to Beijing this afternoon.  We are in Reston Virginia and will try again tomorrow. Even though the flight tomorrow looks equally as bad, I am hopeful that we will get on.  It has been a LONG couple of days.

I spoke with my mother and sister and both are doing as well as can be expected.  There has been so much support and encouragement from so many people and my family truly appreciates it.  My father will be greatly missed by all. 

We were able to catch a 3-hour nap this afternoon after getting about 3 hours of sleep last night.  Even though we arrived home at 5pm last night, our luggage did not arrive until after 7pm.  Thanks to Kristen, Jill and Luann, we got everything packed and made it to the airport on time this morning.  We had to re-distribute some of the weight between a couple suitcases but are officially traveling with three bags weighing 50 lbs. each.  Plus, I think our backpacks weigh at least that!  The airport is VERY big and we did ALOT of walking today. It felt like they weighed 100 lbs each. We also opted to bring the baby carrier instead of a stroller.  At one point, Jake even feel asleep for a short amount of time while sitting on my back.

We were able to book a room at a hotel with an airline rate - $68 versus $250!  The hotel room is very nice and we all enjoyed the rain shower and Crabtr** and Evelyn shampoo, conditioner and lotion - well, at least I did :)  We had pizza delivered to the room and searched through the bags for my cell phone charger.  It was exactly where I thought it was but I did not see it until AFTER I went through every other bag!  Lack of sleep truly slows a body down.  I have not gotten much sleep since the phone rang Tuesday night at 11:35 pm.  I miss my dad....

We did get to practice our Chinese while waiting (and waiting and waiting) for the shuttle bus to the hotel.  We spoke with an 11 year old boy and his mother who are visiting the US.  Sadly, the child has cancer and is seeing someone in Maryland this week.  I did not recognized the name of the institute until the mother showed me the business card.  It certainly put things into perspective for me. 

I am in the business center and need to head back to the room. Internet access is free here so we opted not to get it in the room.  I will update again - but hopefully not from the US.  Thank you all for your prayers - it means everything to us!

Oh, one last thing. I was able to go shopping at Cost*o when I was in Boston.  I bought enough supplies to totally FILL one of the suitcases.  It was the ONLY bag that was searched today at the airport (they left our other bags unopened).  I'm sure they were wondering what I was doing with such LARGE supplies of medicine, Benefiber, toddler pajamas, toothbrushes, candy  (for the bigger kids), etc. I can't wait to deliver it on behalf of those who donated and prayed.

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

List of Needs

Below is a list of needs I found on New Day's and Starfish's websites. I have already purchased 30 (!) rolls of adhesive needed to make banners at Shepherd's Field's factory. That was the one item they requested. If you are able to donate any of these items, please let me know.  My intent, otherwise, is to purchase whatever we collect enough money to buy.  Xie xie.

The list includes:
Nasal Saline Spray
Catheter 8 French
Singulair 4mg
ButtPaste
Benefiber
Toothette oral swabs
Pill Crusher
Paper tape (micropore 3M)
MiraLax
Lactulose
Claritin
Vaseline
Finger tip toothbrushes
Stomahesive powder
ConvaTec adhesive remover wipes
Cleocin Suspension
Triple antibiotic ointment
Clotrimazole cream
Gauze dressings 3X3
Azmacort inhalers
Usana Children's Multivitamin
Tussin CF
Atrovert nebulizers
Liquid Senokot
Kuric Cream (Ketoconazone 2% Cream)
Cefaclor Suspension
Zithromax Suspension
Aquaplast Splinting Material
Pulmicort Nebulizers

Playtex Bottles (the ones with the bags in them)
Playtex nipples (all four sizes)
Motrin and Tylenol (ages 2 - 11)
Pajamas for 12 months to 3T (boys and girls)
Plastic-backed changing table covers
Mucinex expectorant liquid (ages 2 and older)
Preemie diapers
Vicks Babyrub Soothing Vapor Ointment
Desitin Original Zinc Oxide Diaper Rash Ointment